So this week I wanted to take the time to dive into a few fun ways to layer fall and winter looks. The outfits I chose were also the outfits I wore during Fashion Houston this year. *Well, at least for the most part 😉
We all know what it’s like to feel out of place at times, and for me personally, I have to admit that the way I feel I look directly correlates with how I carry myself, so I’m thoughtful about the pieces I pull whether I’m all the way dressed down or glitz and glam. Join me for a tip or two on how I’ve managed to manage this and rise to the occasion feeling fab!
As always, please don’t hesitate to let me know in the comments section if there is a specific What To Wear Coffey Break Chat you’d like to see. I’m thinking along the lines of classic wardrobe staples, date night looks, outfits for the office and so on… Thanks again for watching! Enjoy!
Today’s video is all about boundaries…or the lack thereof haha Although I’m fully convinced of their importance, I still find myself struggling with the best methods to not only identify areas where I need them, but most importantly ways to commit to them once they’ve been identified.
I love the idea of having a support system and accountability partners, but I’m also convinced that people feed off the energy you put out. We might have the best intentions, but without an ongoing commitment, it’s difficult to honor those boundaries, and we definitely shouldn’t expect others to respect our boundaries more than we do.
Having said that, I figured it was definitely time to do a little research on the best place to start with setting boundaries, and here’s what I got!
Enjoy!
Recap:
1. Know What You Want
Make a list of what you want, but don’t have yet, in different areas of your life. Be sure to include work life, home life, relationships, health, finances, spiritual path and any other areas that are important to you.
2. Set standards
Make a list of what you will never tolerate again in your life, and pray what you want into your life. We aren’t in this alone. Be intentional about asking God to literally remove the taste for whatever damaging traits, relationships, habits, etc. that you find yourself dealing with, and that it would be so easy to identify that it literally repels you when you come face to face with it.
Have a escape strategy already put in place. We all know aggressive people, have been in sticky situations, the list goes on… The best defense is being prepared for when those situations arise.Â
3. Don’t assume
Your true boundaries may not offend people. A lot of times perception beats reality in our minds. Don’t make things harder than they have to be by assuming. Communication is everything, and it’s really important to manage expectations. I’d rather have an honest moment than a resentful passive aggressive interaction any day.
4. Start small
Establishing boundaries doesn’t mean you have come out kicking the door down. Be okay with starting out with asserting yourself with scenarios that are less intimidating. This will be a great way to build the confidence, and it’s also a great way to see that it’s not the end of the world if you simply can’t do whatever.
5. Be short and confident in your “no.”
When you feel bad or uncertain about saying no, it makes the situation awkward for everyone. People respond to the vibes we send out. Be intentional about the tone you set. Assertiveness is also best in situations like this. If you’re still uncomfortable, the best time to give it a go isn’t in front of the person haha Role play it! Sit down with someone who loves you enough to take the time to do it right and practice until you get it.Â
6. Don’t apologize.
This is my new mission: Stop apologizing! You haven’t done anything wrong, and it’s not a bad thing if you’re unavailable. If there’s an opportunity to say yes to another time, offer it and keep it moving.
7. Trust your body.
If something makes your heart start to race, head itch or turn your stomach into knots, you should probably say no to the request. If you feel light and free when considering it, then definitely say yes. Learn how to recognize your own internal signals and find a way to push past the pressure that others put on you.
8. Commit Commit to your Standards Commit to your Why
Remember at the end of the day, every time we say no to one thing, we’re saying yes to something else -regardless of whether or not it’s intentional. We’ve been called to live out beautiful purpose filled lives and boundaries help us honor that.Â
Feel free to visit here and here for the inspiration behind my list.
So, I’ve finally come to peace with the fact that I’m not an early riser, but that’s not stopping me from getting the hang of it! Join me as I highlight 10 Ways To Revamp Your Morning Routine… and finally become a morning person. It’s not a cure all, but I’ve been doing my research and all of these are helping!
Today is a big day! It marks the launch of my very first What To Wear Coffey Break Chat video blog. I don’t know about you guys, but I do most of my shopping on the weekends, so I wanted to start putting together videos to assist with what to look for while you’re out and about!
This first episode is all about everyday dress staples. I’m really big on building a solid wardrobe. You can’t leave the house busted if everything you have is fab! Am I right? 😉
I’ll be doing quite a few of these so feel free to leave any requests in the comments below. The vlogs I have in mind so far are; corporate office looks, date night looks, winter layer looks and comfy casual afterwork attire! This is going to be good. So looking forward to building with you!
Video blogging (vlogging) has actually surpassed writing as my favorite form of blogging. There are several reason why I like it, but it really comes down to the feeling that it is the most authentic capture to reflect my true self. Despite that however, I had quite a few apprehensions about giving it a try because I assumed that most of the vloggers I was watching had teams of production people to help them produce their content. I started researching and realized this was not at all the case! Not only have quite a few successful vloggers shared that they taught themselves how to edit their videos, but they also note that they gained their audience doing the best they could with what they had until they hit it big time!
Nonetheless, after a few videos I began to realize that there is such a wide range of definitions for the term ‘small budget’. Â So, I wanted to give you guys real life examples of the practices I’ve put in place to make the most of it until I have the means to take it up a notch! Enjoy!
Recap: Tips for video blogging on a budget:
1. Do your research
2. Plan ahead
3. Be enthusiastic
4. Stage your space
5. Get a tripod
6. Find a beat maker
7. Lighting, lighting, lighting!
8. It’s okay to use the video editing software that comes with your computer.
9. Be CONSISTENT!
Be sure to see below for a few links that were really helpful with this process.
Peace, Love & Sunshine -Chelsea
10 Ways to Fake a Professional Video Blogging Setup on a Tiny Budget * Specific example on how to set up lighting – See more at:
