Coffey Break Chat: Crticism

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Hi guys!

Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving. I personally consider Thanksgiving the kickoff of the holiday season and true to the memes that have been flooding our timelines, it got me thinking about how much chit we take during the holidays sometimes. There’s extra pressure everywhere form the workplace to the home, and Lord knows that pressure doesn’t always bring out the best in us…

Today’s Coffey Break Chat is dedicated to the topic of criticism, and more importantly, how to separate the good from the bad. As always thanks for watching! Enjoy!

Peace, Love & Sunshine ~ Chels

Coffey Break Chat : Criticism

The 5 Love Languages

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Hey guys!

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of witnessing a really special exchange. Two of my closest friends happen to be a married couple, and the topic of love languages came up. They proceeded to have a really interesting dialogue going back and forth about their love languages, and more importantly how it plays a role in their relationship. As a single person, it was really fascinating, and one heck of a reminder of how incredibly important communication is. They’ve been together forever, and they still took the time to thoughtfully discuss their sentiments on expressing themselves through their love language and receiving it -even though they’ve known their love languages for quite some time.

Speaking of time, here’s the irony. I was sitting at home one night with one of my roommates and closest friends, and the topic of love languages came up. She didn’t know hers, so I suggested she take the quiz. To my surprise, her love language was words of affirmation. I couldn’t believe it. I had incorrectly assumed all this time that it would have been quality of time; which means I had haphazardly been neglecting a part of her makeup I didn’t even know to be sensitive to. Now get this, I was telling my parents the story and at that moment it occurred to me that I didn’t know theirs either! They both had the same as my roomate, words of affirmation. It was mind blowing.

See the thing about love languages is that whatever love language(s) we have, ties directly into what makes us feel most loved. I know that may sound redundant, but it really is that simple. So whether it’s a family member, co-worker, partner or friend I make it a priority to know their love language (*birthday sign, communication style, motivation style, DISC profile… hahaha jk but seriously) because not being in tune with someone can potentially create unnecessary challenges when we’re operating relationships without a true understanding of how to thoughtfully connect with the people around us.

Below you’ll find the link to The 5 Love Language Quiz. And just FYI, I’m a quality of time, acts of service hybrid. So if we’re kickin it, you better be ready to roll your sleeves up haha Hence Mia’s Closet, and my awesome friends and family who have so graciously supported the vision every step of the way.

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Find out your love language and share this post with your friends and family. It’ll knock you off your feet to learn this about yourself and those around you. Enjoy!

Peace, Love & Sunshine ~Chels

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About Me: I’m a writer, content creator, futurist and founder of the nonprofit, Mia’s Closet. I love God, and honestly believe that everybody’s just doing the best they can with what they’ve got. Trust the process. The best is yet to come!

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21 Days

 

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Hey guys,

So, for the last 21 days I’ve been doing a fast. Social media specifically. To some, it might sound ridiculous that this was even something to relinquish in the first place. For others, it’s a no-brainer. The first response I got from just about everyone was, “Wait. What?! Isn’t that your job?!”. *Thankfully, most of my clients right now have me copyrighting. No harm. No foul.

Clarity is the word I like to use of late. Not just because that song got me through a couple of really tough days at the beginning, but simply because there is something to be said about unplugging, disconnecting, and letting go…

Every time a fast comes around, my dad and I butt heads about the style of fast that “counts the most”. He’s a straight up Daniel Fast (raw vegan diet) kinda guy, and I prefer a customized approach (dropping comfort foods, favorite pastimes, etc.).

I knew that this time around would be the real deal. Like Lord, I need you to move some things in my life in a big way, and having a clear-cut sense of purpose completely changed the way I look at how I fast.

Fasting just to fast doesn’t inherently bring us closer to God. What I’ve realized, is that it has to be about more than just the food for me. When I get busy, I rip and run and sometimes it doesn’t even occur to me that I haven’t stopped to eat until late in the afternoon. This time, I knew, I just knew, that I was seeking too much to go for another round of dropping fried food. Any intention short of really connecting with God could have easily been disguised as nothing more than a glorified skin cleanse. I needed a shift in my processes. My wiring. A short circuit.

See, I learned that it is a common misuse of the term, short circuit, to connote it with something going wrong, and check this:

In circuit analysis, a short circuit is a connection between two nodes that forces them to be at the same voltage.

That basically sounds like the definition of vibing to me. It’s the same thing with fasting. I really struggle with quieting my mind. I have a million and one ideas racing through my head at any point in time, and I knew I needed a way to minimize the distractions, crutches and so on if I wanted to be at the same voltage.

I wanted to increase my times. Together time. Productivity time. Prayer time. Intentional time.

Social media sucks up all my time. It’s the truth, and for someone who’s so big on boundaries, I had let my perception of culture and work excuse an outright waste of time. What’s interesting, is that it takes 21 days to break a habit. The blessing there is that breaking a habit congruently results in developing a new one.

Accomplishment is my motivation style, and few things make me feel more guilty, hence less accomplished, than procrastinating. Social media platforms are sneaky little suckers. I can’t tell you guys how many times I reached for apps, that were no longer there, without even thinking twice about it. The beauty is that just as natural as it was to reach for Instagram, Facebook, or whatever, it became just as natural to boomerang back to whatever it was that I was working on before my mind began to wander. That one adjustment added HOURS of productivity to my work week. Hours.

The trick from here on out, is reintegrating social media back into my routine without slipping back into my old ways. All I can say for now, is that it’s like that crush that you are totally into, and then some time passes and you look up, and they just don’t interest you like they used to. We’ll see!

As for now, I’m rebuilding. Everything.

Thanks to my sweet friend, Gabrielle Deculus, who just so happened to be vibing with me all the way from Atlanta during the fast, you’ll find 7 tips on how to re(build) a business. Enjoy!

Peace, Love & Sunshine ~Chelsea

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Calling All Creatives

 

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Hey guys!

So my friend posted an article earlier today, 20 Things Only Highly Creative People Would Understand, and it literally made me feel like someone read my diary OUT LOUD. A few lines in and I knew I had to share. I could go on and on, but like I said, the article is basically my sentiments on a platter.

Check it:

11. They think and speak in stories.

Facts will never move the human heart like storytelling can. Highly creative people, especially artists, know this and weave stories into everything they do. It takes longer for them to explain something, explaining isn’t the point. The experience is.

12. They battle Resistance every day.

Steven Pressfield, author of The War of Art, writes:

“Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”

Highly creative people wake up every morning, fully aware of the need to grow and push themselves. But there is always the fear, Resistance as Pressfield calls it, that they don’t have what it takes. No matter how successful the person, that fear never goes away. They simply learn to deal with it, or not.

Curious to see the remaining 18? Read the full article, here + http://goo.gl/MSKpki

Thank you Josh for the share, and thank you Kevin Kaiser for the great read. Let’s see what Ken and Bren have to say about all of this haha Maybe I’ll go by the house, and act out all the numbers for them. Comedy and drama always seem to be the best form of communication with those two haha God bless my parents. They’ve been so patient over the years lol Hope you enjoy!

Good night you guys!

Peace, Love & Sunshine ~Chels

 

 

 

Let Go & Let God

Hey guys!

I’ve been in a bit of a whirlwind. Thank God for clarity even it it’s packaged in the most unexpected of ways… Join me as I share my come to Jesus experience, never thought I’d actually be using that..lol  and share tips on how I’m trying my best on how to Let Go and Let God.

This faith walk is the real deal.. Video below. Enjoy!

Peace, Love & Sunshine ~Chelsea