Fret not/Fear not/Faint not: Brenda Coffey always seems to know what to send and when. (The irony 😏)
Coffey Break Chat: The 5 Simple Rules to Showing Love
Hey guys!
This week’s Coffey Break Chat touches on a topic that has come up a million and one times over the last 4-5 years, online engagement. The original title for the post was 5 simple ways to show love without coming off like a fan… groupie, etc.
And this is something that I attribute especially to the digital space. There are conversations I have in person or via text that I express differently online, and what I’ve come to realize is that every time I do that, I’m essentially watering down the beauty of a sincere moment by overthinking my response.
One day, I rolled my eyes after spending more time than I’d like to admit overthinking the right response, and I was just over it. I said to myself that from there on out, I’d choose to respond, comment, post and show love as authentically as possible. It’s a good thing haha
I pulled the following quote from Show Your Work and serves as the inspiration behind this post:
“If you want fans, you have to be a fan first. If you want to be accepted by a community, you have to first be a good citizen of that community. If you’re only pointing to your own stuff online, you’re doing it wrong. You have to be a connector. The writer Blake Butler calls this being an open node. If you want to get, you have to give. If you want to be noticed, you have to notice. Shut up and listen once in a while. Be thoughtful. Be considerate. Don’t turn into human spam. Be an open node.”
Encouragement is all about empowering whoever those kind words are intended for. Enough with the cool antics. I’m too old for that. Life can be tough, and the world could use a lot more a lot more cheerleaders.
Nonetheless, there’s a sweet spot for just about everything.
Check out my video blog below on 5 Simple Rules to Showing Love:
- Be sincere
- Have or get your chit together
- Be intentional about keeping an eye out for opportunities that benefit more than just you
- Establish boundaries
- Stop worrying about what other people might think
Have a great weekend guys!
Peace, Love & Sunshine ~Chelsea
Everything Else Is Secondary
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. -Steve Jobs
^Fredis and my’s conversation from yesterday in a nutshell. There’s something so beautiful about the realization that you’ve totally lost track of the, “Oh my gosh! I feel the exact same, way!!” moments.
Book @fredis_b. He’s a magician with the camera Xoxo -Chels
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Oprah said… #lotn 3.11.16
Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life. Envision your spirituality, your family, your friends, your work, love, everything. You become what you believe. And when that’s too daunting of a task, because it can be overwhelming at times, trust me, stop time to reflect on the words poured into you by the ones who love you most. The life they’ve spoken into you, the gifts they’ve shared that they see in you, the things they’re believing God for you. None of that is happenstance. They see it because you’ve got it. Continue to surround yourself with the best, and if you don’t have them, find them. You never know how God is going to use the people in your life to simply blow you away. Yesterday was one of those super sappy, 😪 thank you Jesus, it’s all coming together kind of days. Sometimes you just have to wait, and wait, and wait. Trust the process 🙏🏾❤️ Xoxo -Chels
*This was originally supposed to be a #lotn post, but there’s just too much to be thankful for not to share. God is good guys.
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Think Big, This Time With God
One day I looked around and decided that treating God like and option was no longer an option. I dream big, but I don’t always think big and there’s a difference. Thinking big attributes to creating applications and strategies to make those dreams a reality, but it’s crucial to know that even the best plan or strategy can fall short if its not on His path for us. I know from personal experience that apprehension and lack of clarity can trick you into trying to find contentment in the safe zone.
My goals in this season are simple: Seek Him first, trust wholeheartedly in my dreams and vision, and expand my horizon so that I can actually know, identify, and claim what bigger looks like. ✨🙏🏾❤️
May the good become the great for each and everyone one of us 💫 Xoxo -Chels #dreambigger2016
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